Everybody is born onto this earth with nothing except their physical body, as we grow older we acquire things. Material things such as clothes, houses, cars, televisions etc and emotional things such as confidence, insecurities and character.

You can buy new material things whenever you want as long as you have the money or the credit but theyll only make you feel better for a short while. Confidence and character however you cant buy.

All the flash cars, nice houses and even plastic surgery wont increase your sense of self worth and strength of character. To do this you need to look within.

You may have heard of miraculous transformations in character after a person has had plastic surgery but its not the surgery itself that causes the change, its what that change means to the person whos had it.

If it means youre more beautiful than youve ever been then itll show through in your personality.

If it means youve changed on the outside but dont feel any different on the inside then this too will show through in your personality.

Instead of looking at all of the things that you dont have and lolling about feeling sorry for yourself, why not use what you already have to get what you desire.

If the weather outside is cold and wet what do you do? You put on the right clothes for the weather and go out anyway. You may even decide to have some fun and go jumping in some puddles. You cant change the weather so you adapt yourself to the circumstance.

If youre attracted to someone and want to ask them out but you dont think theyll say yes because you feel unattractive what do you do? You put on the right clothes and go jumping in puddles. Move your focus to what youve got, to your best bits and feel better about yourself.

Accentuate all the positive aspects of yourself and play down the negative. Go to the hairdressers and get a new haircut, wear some new clothes play up all of the great parts of your personality.

At the end of the day if you cant change the circumstance, adapt the circumstance around you. If you been blessed with not so good looks, use something you can control to get that person of your dreams.

This rule applies to any part of your life, stop feeling sorry for yourself and beating yourself up, take a look inside, find out whats great about you and the situation youre in. Take some action to adapt the circumstance in your favor. Theres always a way and if you cant find one, make one.