Intimate relationships; they infuse our lives with that special spark of vitality that makes colors shine brighter, flavors taste sweeter, and bodies feel healthier. And when they are absent from our lives we feel our deepest human desires burn unsatisfied inside.

There is a mystery to loves appearance in our lives, and yet there are things we can do to set the stage for loving relationships. Here are a few reminders - some down to earth tips gathered from brave souls of all ages who are honest with themselves about what really matters and choose to make loving well a priority in their lives. For them, and perhaps for you, giving up on having a satisfying loving relationship is not an option and you are willing to do whatever it takes to have love be a very alive and active energy in your life.

1. Get clear about what you really, really want in a partner and dont settle for less.

2. Know what you can live with and what you cant.

3. If you want to enjoy the dance of polarity in your intimate relationship start now by enjoying being the woman or man that you are.

4. Dont try to fix, change or make an almost mate into your perfect match. You dont need another project do you?

5. If he/she is not right for you, say no thank you, relax and move on.

6. Dont kid yourself. Staying entangled with the wrong person makes it unlikely that you will be ready for the right one when he/she does come along.

7. Choose to be happy alone for as long as it takes. Your happiness is magnetic and he/she will be attracted to you sooner than if you are sad and moping around.

8. Enjoy your own life fully while being passionately enthused about sharing your great life with a magnificent partner.

9. Trust the process and enjoy every stage of coming together. Embrace the togetherness and allow natural breathing space too.

10. And finally when you find him or her- respect and cherish them. Love the love that shows up and appreciate the gift of their presence in your life.