First, dont be afraid to spend less. Readers of my book, MitzvahChic, already know that chic and style do not equal expensive. Good tastestylethese are timeless and transcend matters of price. The simplest table decoration if its rendered with sincerity and a bit of aesthetic charm is as authentic an expression of chic as the most expensive Paris couture.

So, this section should really be called How to Cut Corners and Still Give Everyone a Wonderful Experience. You dont have to compromise quality to save money, and, to prove it, Im not going to give any silly suggestions like have your party on a Monday and youll get a slightly better price from the caterer. Thats true. In fact youll save a fortune because no one will be able to come! How expensive could it be to feed six people?

Here are ten of my favorite ideas for saving money there are many more in MitzvahChic. Remember, you can always offer to barter in lieu of some cash. Have no professional skills to swap? Offer to do some work for the vendor; ask for a discount off your bill for whatever friends you send his way who actually hire him; give him time in your vacation home. On second thought, if you have a vacation home, why are you reading this? This material excerpted from MitzvahChic, a bar/bat mitzvah planning book featuring a wealth of party-planning ideas. See the book.

Your Biggest Costs

Food, liquor and music. Theyre the budget-busters. Its hard to find bargains on music and many hosts dont look for them because the musical leader be it a DJ or maestro really runs your party. Thats a very important role you may not be comfortable economizing on. But lets look at some great ideas that will save you money.

1. Host a Joint Party

If youre planning a bar/bat mitzvah and faced with having two parties because you want an adult party and your child wants a big kid party, consider this. If your child has close friends who share pretty much the same social circle, organize the parents to throw one big party for all the bar/bat mitzvah kids at a fire hall. Then you can afford the best DJ, the best everything. On your childs actual bar/bat mitzvah day, have a modest adult party that includes your childs closest friends.

2. Pick a Hall That Doesnt Have an Approved Caterer

Many synagogues and even some churches require you to choose from a list of approved caterers if you want to use their auditorium for your wedding or other event. If your budget is modest and the list doesnt include a vendor who will work within it, youll be forced to spend more if you want to use that room. Some communities dont have a lot of options, but think creatively and look around you just need a big room somewhere. If you really want to have your party in your own synagogue or church and theres no budget-friendly option in caterers, organize like-minded congregants to talk to the administrators about adding a caterer who will enthusiastically work with modest budgets. Or perhaps even change the policy to let you bring in your own food. Then you can.

3. Organize Your Own Food

The least expensive caterer I know in my area (Philadelphia) charges a minimum of about $35 a person for a sit-down meal. Imagine how much great takeout food you could buy each person for that! Order trays from all the local restaurants: sushi, Chinese dumplings, gourmet pizza. Hire some college kids and local moms to take care of heating and serving the food.

4. Keep It Simple and, Perhaps, Exotic

Keep the menu simple. Have meatless dishes you may save a little and youll please all the vegetarians and people who observe religious restrictions. Have a different (less expensive but still quality) menu for the kids. Serve inexpensive and unusual ethnic foods. It will be a culinary adventure and no one will be able to determine if the food is cheap or not.

5. Let Them Eat Cake

Shop for a cake at your neighborhood bakery, not the local bakers to the stars. They may have very nice designs but no budget to advertise them. If youre buying a cake, tell the caterer you dont want dessert its often served before the cake and the cake then goes uneaten. Best idea of all: buy pretty individual cakes and use them as the centerpieces the culinary equivalent of multi-tasking.

6. Buy Co-Op China

This idea is particularly relevant for parents planning a bar/bat mitzvah, as you usually know other parents doing it too. If youre planning to cater your own party, youll need china, utensils and glassware. These are usually supplied by the caterer and can be costly to rent if theres even a rental place in your area. Far better: get a group of parents together to buy one big set of china from a restaurant supplier and take turns using it. If you have no suppliers in your area, try www.centralrestaurant.com. Buy extra --- there will be breakage along the way.

7. Buy Your Own Liquor

There are many options in how you handle drinks at your party. You can have a simple wine, juice and soda bar or an expanded version where you have the set-ups and alcohol for the six-ten most popular mixed drinks. You do not need to offer a full-service bar to be considered a good host! Hire your own server. See if the wine vendor delivers, if he includes the use of wineglasses, and if he will allow you to return unopened bottles for a refund.

8. Make Decorations and Party Favors Yourself

Get your friends to help you youll have so much fun! Dont worry that they wont then be surprised by the dcor when they come to the party. The thrill of an opening night is never diminished for the actors just because theyve rehearsed it a zillion times. See the craft ideas on this website.

9. Having Flowers? Arrange Them Yourself

If you have a good eye, buy flowers in bulk and make the arrangements yourself. If you dont have a good eye, get potted flowering plants or get large bunches of one beautiful flower and place them in simple pots. Make simple topiaries by bunching one kind of long-stemmed flower together and tying raffia around the trunk of stalks to keep them upright.

10. Make Entertainers Do Double-Duty

If youre hiring entertainment in addition to the music, get someone who will create a giveaway, thereby eliminating the need for a separate party favor. At this writing, some of the hot entertainment/giveaway-producing ideas are the cast-wax hand sculptures; photo-booth buttons, magnets and magazine covers; or a tape of the guest singing karaoke.

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